If you love somebody
you lead them to enlightenment
you don’t draw them into
your own defilements.
— Ajahn Sumedho
It is a surprize that I am able to find a quote like this, that could sum up my long winded expressions.
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Thursday, April 23, 2009
True love
If you love somebody
you lead them to enlightenment
you don’t draw them into
your own defilements.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
My Valentines Day
This is the 1st time I had activities on Valentines Day. It's a busy day.
Since the morning I'm racing for time.
I'm suppose to go for a performance call "Dear Death" by Bangkok University, Dept of Performing Arts this afternoon.
It all happens from a SMS yesterday, where MX promised to reply on fri whether is she able to attend the performance... It all started where she mentioned, "It's for valentines!" then I realise, it was valentines day on 14 Feb. I was never aware or took notice about valentines. Just not bothered to be aware about it.
I remember my NS friend shawn mentioned he wanted to make paper roses bouquets for some of his friends for Valentines and I thought, "Hmm.. Since she reminded me about it, maybe I should prepare a gift for Valentines."
It was on friday late afternoon then I started learning on making paper roses from him, and he brought me shopping for materials. By the time I reach home, it is late night liao. I don't want ppl see me making all these... kinda girlish thing..haha... It looks girlish lor.
So I made them when everyone was asleep and went to sleep before dawn. I wouldn't stayed up so late if i had found the material i missed... the green tape for stalks. So I thought... aiyah, morning go buy.
Sleep until 11am jump up... haha start searching for it again, and I found it... quickly finish the thing rose and started on the card.
Thought for some moments...
Came up with this Poem or rather, couplets, not too chim, not too shallow:
Literal Translation:
Life and Time changes with Heaven and Earth(means: Everything)
Only true feelings carry on for 10 thousand years(means: Forever)
It means:
Everything in life changes, only genuine feelings stays forever.
This is a fresh experience, I'm portrayed as a "Hardcore Religious Person", but today I'm going to be a 风流才子... haha, romantic and talented person. That's the nature of Libra's what... = )
After everything is done, start locating the receivers liao... by that time is 12.30am and the race for time begins.
1pm leave house, chiong to punggol... Taxi is sooo had to get... finally reach FGS, presented the gift, search for taxi to COLLECT TICKET! Sian Diao... it's already 1.40pm!!!
(These people are interesting... Valentines Days Squat in temple study... Zzzz, but I'm fine with it. Haha)
Worse, the place I'm in is 鸟不生蛋，一片荒野。A helpful auntie advised me where I can get a Taxi. I got to walk all the way down to the HDB area. Heng Heng in 10mins, I get a Cab, and fly to Indoor Stadium... Another 鸟不生蛋，鸡不拉屎 Place... Worse than Punggol. That was 2.00pm.
Again, heng heng, a empty taxi came, after 15mins. Quickly wave and chiong to esplanade. 2.30pm liao. Lucky Indoor stadium and esplanade not far away, and meet up with YF and LB.
Phew...First time race until like that. I know I'm going to spent alot this time on Taxi, specially prepared funds for it. Then I cracked a joke to them about missing parts of the performance, "Things isn't that perfect today, this shows that valentines day is not meant for 3 guys gatherings, like us."
Although we missed the 1st part of the performance, but it is still a marvelous performance to us, they way it portrayed the story, the music, the song, the pali buddhist quotes, the way the sing the Gathas... the way they dance and the costume... SOOOO nice! As great, as majestic as our Chinese arts!
It is a great show, with great meanings.
Most importantly, the Buddhist aspect of it is accurate, even it's pronunciation is precise!
I prepared 2 gifts for 2 different ladies. but the 2nd one didn't managed to pass to her leh... Hai~
I didn't want to bring 2 boxes put in a plastic bag or what... So Orh Biang... I only brought the punggol one out, and thinking to collect the 2nd one from home.
But by the time i reach home is night time le. She say no need to rush so far away to pass her that, can pass next time, it's ok. I'm not use of giving belated presents, but no choice, in the end got to gave up the idea, and pass the gift to her next time liao...
She asked what about ZL and the rest? I say, "Only made for selected few." On the other hand, I'm thinking inside me... Valentines presents... man give man...Roses?? Eeee...So weird.
Maybe a blue one...haha... Blue Roses actually means "We are Impossible." But I realise some people give their GF's Blue roses. If that girls knows the message behind the colours, she will be like, "What have I done wrong?? = ("
But I guess both of the guy and girl is ignorant of these hidden messages bah... Hai~
Or maybe the girl like blue roses?
Anyway, it's a Interesting Day.
I do get shy and nervous when I need to do these mushy things, like giving presents to girls, or hanging out 1 to 1 with another girl, even though it's nothing or proposing, or courting.
Heh...some phobia from bad and nasty experiences in the past, lack of confidence.
But no, I must go through this barrier, must be nothing to afraid. Not I see girls shy, is girls see me will shy, like that... if not I'll have an extra barrier.
I'm going to experience and learn, what is it like to do all these tender loving care things... to... girls (today's girls aren't tender and loving leh... Haha!) See the heart, see the mind, understand how it works... That will be good for practice, see will 动凡心 or not.
Then next time I can draw reliable self-experiences as examples for Dhamma explanation mah...
I can see my heart pumping actually... haha... never do this kinda thing before.
Also, if I can, maybe try... how's a relationship is like personally...
Why so pain? Is it because of the nature of relationship, or it is all about mental qualities and method of managing?
Why stressful?
Why so happy?
Can it be joyful, harmonious and full of greatness of true Metta?
If I'm being thrown into a relationship, I will 方寸大乱, dunno what to do ah... Haha...
Drawing example from Buddha, he isn't virgin!
But he had gotten the best wife on earth, who truly loves.
Who can endure husband go become a monk? She must be of noble love! In the end, his wife, his son, also become arahants, free from pain of life, dwell in utmost happiness.
People don't understand, but this is how the Buddha loves. A loving mother cannot free her child from the misery of separation, aging, illness and death. We can't bear to see our love ones in pain, how can we help?
He don't want to be trapped in this dilemma, he don't want to be helpless. For the freedom from the misery of separation, aging, illness and death, he seek the path.
The more he love, the more he part them for lasting happiness. He did it. Just an example.
Or like Maha Kassapa and his wife. I find that many romantic stories in the Suttas. And the level of love, is really true and great. It is noble and pure, full of wisdom and warmth.
That's the state, I'm always seeking.
Once, a NS friend asked everyone on the table,
"Would you be the one dominating? or be dominated in a relationship?"
I refuse to answer.
But he keep probing me to answer. I passed a comment, "No lah, I don't want to offend people."
Until he say, "I really want to know your comments, I want to learn."
Then I reply, "I feel this question is shallow. Summarized: Love is not about dominating. But it may involves leadership. If we think on who should dominated, you'll end up quarreling, because most of the time, people see the giver as a victim. Love is really about hope the other party to be happy and well, if not, you are actually in love with yourself, your feelings and your benefits. The "Yue Niang" in Little Nyonya, demonstrates this. Because she truly loves, that is why she can give up him for his benefit, not stubbornly wanted to possess him, and in the end breaking up his family."
I always feel, most people out there, didn't really understand what love is all about.
It is more of affection, attachment and desire.
No good thing prospers in ignorance.
The more we understand this flawed universe the more skillfully we can live, and the happier we will be.
We love best when we do not love out of desperation.
-Nothing Higher to live for, Bhikkhu Nyanasobhano
Some movies are weird, but they possess great wisdom, like 情癫大圣。I don't really like it, but I can't help but to agree what the 如来佛祖 told 唐三藏:
如来：
如果我告诉你，你们在一起的时间，只可以维持到今天日落，你觉得呢？
三藏：
我愿意。
如来：
正因如此，你的爱是有限的。你有没有想过，爱一个人，不一定要有结果。
不追求结果，就不会有尽头的一天。
我相信，这女子今天上天庭是打算（为你）牺牲自己，并没有想过要再跟你在一起。
这种不追求结果的爱，才是无限的。(I feel, this part a bit not very right. It is not yet 无限, because this sacrifice is still limited to 三藏 only. I don't feel that she will sacrifice to another one like that, other than 三藏)
We love best when we do not love out of desperation.
-Nothing Higher to live for, Bhikkhu Nyanasobhano
That is my stand too... =)
Since the morning I'm racing for time.
I'm suppose to go for a performance call "Dear Death" by Bangkok University, Dept of Performing Arts this afternoon.
It all happens from a SMS yesterday, where MX promised to reply on fri whether is she able to attend the performance... It all started where she mentioned, "It's for valentines!" then I realise, it was valentines day on 14 Feb. I was never aware or took notice about valentines. Just not bothered to be aware about it.
I remember my NS friend shawn mentioned he wanted to make paper roses bouquets for some of his friends for Valentines and I thought, "Hmm.. Since she reminded me about it, maybe I should prepare a gift for Valentines."
It was on friday late afternoon then I started learning on making paper roses from him, and he brought me shopping for materials. By the time I reach home, it is late night liao. I don't want ppl see me making all these... kinda girlish thing..haha... It looks girlish lor.
So I made them when everyone was asleep and went to sleep before dawn. I wouldn't stayed up so late if i had found the material i missed... the green tape for stalks. So I thought... aiyah, morning go buy.
Sleep until 11am jump up... haha start searching for it again, and I found it... quickly finish the thing rose and started on the card.
Thought for some moments...
Came up with this Poem or rather, couplets, not too chim, not too shallow:
人生 彩云 天地换，
唯有 真情 万世长。
唯有 真情 万世长。
Literal Translation:
Life and Time changes with Heaven and Earth(means: Everything)
Only true feelings carry on for 10 thousand years(means: Forever)
It means:
Everything in life changes, only genuine feelings stays forever.
This is a fresh experience, I'm portrayed as a "Hardcore Religious Person", but today I'm going to be a 风流才子... haha, romantic and talented person. That's the nature of Libra's what... = )
After everything is done, start locating the receivers liao... by that time is 12.30am and the race for time begins.
1pm leave house, chiong to punggol... Taxi is sooo had to get... finally reach FGS, presented the gift, search for taxi to COLLECT TICKET! Sian Diao... it's already 1.40pm!!!
(These people are interesting... Valentines Days Squat in temple study... Zzzz, but I'm fine with it. Haha)
Worse, the place I'm in is 鸟不生蛋，一片荒野。A helpful auntie advised me where I can get a Taxi. I got to walk all the way down to the HDB area. Heng Heng in 10mins, I get a Cab, and fly to Indoor Stadium... Another 鸟不生蛋，鸡不拉屎 Place... Worse than Punggol. That was 2.00pm.
Again, heng heng, a empty taxi came, after 15mins. Quickly wave and chiong to esplanade. 2.30pm liao. Lucky Indoor stadium and esplanade not far away, and meet up with YF and LB.
Phew...First time race until like that. I know I'm going to spent alot this time on Taxi, specially prepared funds for it. Then I cracked a joke to them about missing parts of the performance, "Things isn't that perfect today, this shows that valentines day is not meant for 3 guys gatherings, like us."
Although we missed the 1st part of the performance, but it is still a marvelous performance to us, they way it portrayed the story, the music, the song, the pali buddhist quotes, the way the sing the Gathas... the way they dance and the costume... SOOOO nice! As great, as majestic as our Chinese arts!
It is a great show, with great meanings.
Most importantly, the Buddhist aspect of it is accurate, even it's pronunciation is precise!
I prepared 2 gifts for 2 different ladies. but the 2nd one didn't managed to pass to her leh... Hai~
I didn't want to bring 2 boxes put in a plastic bag or what... So Orh Biang... I only brought the punggol one out, and thinking to collect the 2nd one from home.
But by the time i reach home is night time le. She say no need to rush so far away to pass her that, can pass next time, it's ok. I'm not use of giving belated presents, but no choice, in the end got to gave up the idea, and pass the gift to her next time liao...
She asked what about ZL and the rest? I say, "Only made for selected few." On the other hand, I'm thinking inside me... Valentines presents... man give man...Roses?? Eeee...So weird.
Maybe a blue one...haha... Blue Roses actually means "We are Impossible." But I realise some people give their GF's Blue roses. If that girls knows the message behind the colours, she will be like, "What have I done wrong?? = ("
But I guess both of the guy and girl is ignorant of these hidden messages bah... Hai~
Or maybe the girl like blue roses?
Anyway, it's a Interesting Day.
I do get shy and nervous when I need to do these mushy things, like giving presents to girls, or hanging out 1 to 1 with another girl, even though it's nothing or proposing, or courting.
Heh...some phobia from bad and nasty experiences in the past, lack of confidence.
But no, I must go through this barrier, must be nothing to afraid. Not I see girls shy, is girls see me will shy, like that... if not I'll have an extra barrier.
I'm going to experience and learn, what is it like to do all these tender loving care things... to... girls (today's girls aren't tender and loving leh... Haha!) See the heart, see the mind, understand how it works... That will be good for practice, see will 动凡心 or not.
Then next time I can draw reliable self-experiences as examples for Dhamma explanation mah...
I can see my heart pumping actually... haha... never do this kinda thing before.
Also, if I can, maybe try... how's a relationship is like personally...
Why so pain? Is it because of the nature of relationship, or it is all about mental qualities and method of managing?
Why stressful?
Why so happy?
Can it be joyful, harmonious and full of greatness of true Metta?
If I'm being thrown into a relationship, I will 方寸大乱, dunno what to do ah... Haha...
Drawing example from Buddha, he isn't virgin!
But he had gotten the best wife on earth, who truly loves.
Who can endure husband go become a monk? She must be of noble love! In the end, his wife, his son, also become arahants, free from pain of life, dwell in utmost happiness.
People don't understand, but this is how the Buddha loves. A loving mother cannot free her child from the misery of separation, aging, illness and death. We can't bear to see our love ones in pain, how can we help?
He don't want to be trapped in this dilemma, he don't want to be helpless. For the freedom from the misery of separation, aging, illness and death, he seek the path.
The more he love, the more he part them for lasting happiness. He did it. Just an example.
Or like Maha Kassapa and his wife. I find that many romantic stories in the Suttas. And the level of love, is really true and great. It is noble and pure, full of wisdom and warmth.
That's the state, I'm always seeking.
My "Yasodhara"
If I ever found my "Yasodhara",
my wonderful companion,
I'll seek the path to happiness, even more,
out of true love.
The more I love,
the more I should seek freedom,
for myself, for her.
Leaving everything behind,
seeking the path earnestly,
My heart, as the Buddha's love,
will be purer and true along the way.
She takes care of my needs and well-being,
my parents, my child and the family.
Setting my heart at ease,
for the pursuit of awakening.
Her loneliness might be a regret,
but my company will never set her free,
from aging, illness and death.
Because of that,
striving is my duty,
for her lasting happiness.
With a warm, gentle and soft voice,
I'll tell her by her ears, before I part,
"Because I Love you truly and pure,
therefore I seek eternal happiness."
That is the greatest happiness I can give,
that is the best happiness I should give.
The freedom from all fears, all discontentment,
all suffering.
Only my "Yasodhara" can Love to this extend,
no others are capable of loving to such purity.
We might seek the path together,
Loving based on only Love.
Beyond possessing,
beyond sensuality.
When eternal happiness is achieved,
All beings are benefited.
There we dwell in everlasting happiness,
and immeasurable Love.
If "Yasodhara" was never found,
my wonderful companion,
I'll seek the path to happiness, even more,
out of true love to all my love ones.
The more I love,
the more I should seek freedom,
for myself, for everyone.
That love,
pure,
unchanging,
everlasting,
limitless,
is what I seek,
is my final aim.
my wonderful companion,
I'll seek the path to happiness, even more,
out of true love.
The more I love,
the more I should seek freedom,
for myself, for her.
Leaving everything behind,
seeking the path earnestly,
My heart, as the Buddha's love,
will be purer and true along the way.
She takes care of my needs and well-being,
my parents, my child and the family.
Setting my heart at ease,
for the pursuit of awakening.
Her loneliness might be a regret,
but my company will never set her free,
from aging, illness and death.
Because of that,
striving is my duty,
for her lasting happiness.
With a warm, gentle and soft voice,
I'll tell her by her ears, before I part,
"Because I Love you truly and pure,
therefore I seek eternal happiness."
That is the greatest happiness I can give,
that is the best happiness I should give.
The freedom from all fears, all discontentment,
all suffering.
Only my "Yasodhara" can Love to this extend,
no others are capable of loving to such purity.
We might seek the path together,
Loving based on only Love.
Beyond possessing,
beyond sensuality.
When eternal happiness is achieved,
All beings are benefited.
There we dwell in everlasting happiness,
and immeasurable Love.
If "Yasodhara" was never found,
my wonderful companion,
I'll seek the path to happiness, even more,
out of true love to all my love ones.
The more I love,
the more I should seek freedom,
for myself, for everyone.
That love,
pure,
unchanging,
everlasting,
limitless,
is what I seek,
is my final aim.
Once, a NS friend asked everyone on the table,
"Would you be the one dominating? or be dominated in a relationship?"
I refuse to answer.
But he keep probing me to answer. I passed a comment, "No lah, I don't want to offend people."
Until he say, "I really want to know your comments, I want to learn."
Then I reply, "I feel this question is shallow. Summarized: Love is not about dominating. But it may involves leadership. If we think on who should dominated, you'll end up quarreling, because most of the time, people see the giver as a victim. Love is really about hope the other party to be happy and well, if not, you are actually in love with yourself, your feelings and your benefits. The "Yue Niang" in Little Nyonya, demonstrates this. Because she truly loves, that is why she can give up him for his benefit, not stubbornly wanted to possess him, and in the end breaking up his family."
I always feel, most people out there, didn't really understand what love is all about.
It is more of affection, attachment and desire.
If got the chance, I'll try out everything I understand about love.
No good thing prospers in ignorance.
The more we understand this flawed universe the more skillfully we can live, and the happier we will be.
We love best when we do not love out of desperation.
-Nothing Higher to live for, Bhikkhu Nyanasobhano
Some movies are weird, but they possess great wisdom, like 情癫大圣。I don't really like it, but I can't help but to agree what the 如来佛祖 told 唐三藏:
如来：
如果我告诉你，你们在一起的时间，只可以维持到今天日落，你觉得呢？
三藏：
我愿意。
如来：
正因如此，你的爱是有限的。你有没有想过，爱一个人，不一定要有结果。
不追求结果，就不会有尽头的一天。
我相信，这女子今天上天庭是打算（为你）牺牲自己，并没有想过要再跟你在一起。
这种不追求结果的爱，才是无限的。(I feel, this part a bit not very right. It is not yet 无限, because this sacrifice is still limited to 三藏 only. I don't feel that she will sacrifice to another one like that, other than 三藏)
We love best when we do not love out of desperation.
-Nothing Higher to live for, Bhikkhu Nyanasobhano
That is my stand too... =)
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Indescribable Joy
I can't describe the meaning, and the worth of it.
But seeing anyone grown in wisdom - freeing themselves from delusion and pain, step by step - great joy and happiness arise in me. Indescribable joy.
Just like the joy of a mother seeing her child, growing day by day...
But seeing anyone grown in wisdom - freeing themselves from delusion and pain, step by step - great joy and happiness arise in me. Indescribable joy.
Just like the joy of a mother seeing her child, growing day by day...
Friday, May 16, 2008
Irony
"The more I loved you, the more I should leave for you good."
Isn't that an irony to most people?
But, I always agree that love, can do without possessing and ownership.
The more I care the more I should leave... That has become my motivation, and it's getting stronger and stronger.
I guess I delight more in helping others, and that's what I like to do. I doesn't like that feeling, when i'll have to put myself infront of others, while we chase over the same benefit and achievement. That greed, that selfishness. I rather lose in sense the of achievement, than to lose myself to my inner war.
Throughout these years, I began to see my limits when I tried to help others, especially with the point to know the truth of things. What is really true, and what isn't.
I began to feel helpless. I'm bounded by my ignorance. Now, I decieded that I want to make an end to my ignorance... that's the way to really enable myself to help, and to really help others in their problems, and even my own.
When I am expected to relinquish everything, little little things starts to come up, "I wouldn't be able to enjoy my favourite past times", "What about my friends?", "Games?", "Family?"
But now I see, this isn't a problem to me because I will have to go beyond them, and thats the whole purpose of letting go in the first place.
I may stay, with possessions... but I'll never go beyond these desires... and the problem will always left unresolved.
The fear is from losing things... but there is nothing to fear after I've gone beyond. That's what I'm aiming for now... going beyond them... and be really free and at ease.
I'll have to cross, before I can enable those I love, to cross, as that's the greatest happiness I can really give. In fact, that is the only main thing that they need... to go beyond the fear of losing what they loved.
Death bring's seperation, good health is lost due to illness and diseases, beauty and energy are lost due to natural aging. This are things we like, but this are things we are going to lose. It is a natural for most worldlings, even me, to fear loss of whatever is beloved: people, wife, health, freedom, love, friendship, opportunity...etc.
We can't stop these to happen, but we can go beyond.
Can I? Just waiting for the benefiting factors to arise... = )
I'll miss you, You'll miss me... but I hope that we can go beyond, and be really free.
Isn't that an irony to most people?
But, I always agree that love, can do without possessing and ownership.
The more I care the more I should leave... That has become my motivation, and it's getting stronger and stronger.
I guess I delight more in helping others, and that's what I like to do. I doesn't like that feeling, when i'll have to put myself infront of others, while we chase over the same benefit and achievement. That greed, that selfishness. I rather lose in sense the of achievement, than to lose myself to my inner war.
Throughout these years, I began to see my limits when I tried to help others, especially with the point to know the truth of things. What is really true, and what isn't.
I began to feel helpless. I'm bounded by my ignorance. Now, I decieded that I want to make an end to my ignorance... that's the way to really enable myself to help, and to really help others in their problems, and even my own.
When I am expected to relinquish everything, little little things starts to come up, "I wouldn't be able to enjoy my favourite past times", "What about my friends?", "Games?", "Family?"
But now I see, this isn't a problem to me because I will have to go beyond them, and thats the whole purpose of letting go in the first place.
I may stay, with possessions... but I'll never go beyond these desires... and the problem will always left unresolved.
The fear is from losing things... but there is nothing to fear after I've gone beyond. That's what I'm aiming for now... going beyond them... and be really free and at ease.
I'll have to cross, before I can enable those I love, to cross, as that's the greatest happiness I can really give. In fact, that is the only main thing that they need... to go beyond the fear of losing what they loved.
Death bring's seperation, good health is lost due to illness and diseases, beauty and energy are lost due to natural aging. This are things we like, but this are things we are going to lose. It is a natural for most worldlings, even me, to fear loss of whatever is beloved: people, wife, health, freedom, love, friendship, opportunity...etc.
We can't stop these to happen, but we can go beyond.
Can I? Just waiting for the benefiting factors to arise... = )
I'll miss you, You'll miss me... but I hope that we can go beyond, and be really free.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Aching for my friend...
Aching for someone else... Ha... why? Just can't bear to see them feeling that kinda killing pain from seperation.
I wonder how is he's feeling now, the girl is ok, got a nice new boyfriend...
Everything sounded so quiet... they never tell me.. Maybe I know why. Did anyone comfort them?
I'm just feeling heart aching... It aches.. that pain from seperation is unbearable... Why must they face such pain? It is almost as painful as I lost someone too, they seemed so normal... Now left the guy...is he Ok? To my uunderstanding, he took 2 years to forget his ex galfriend... such a sentimental man, how long will he need to get over this? The unsentimental ppl who aren't true enough wouldn't understand....
I wonder how is he's feeling now, the girl is ok, got a nice new boyfriend...
Everything sounded so quiet... they never tell me.. Maybe I know why. Did anyone comfort them?
I'm just feeling heart aching... It aches.. that pain from seperation is unbearable... Why must they face such pain? It is almost as painful as I lost someone too, they seemed so normal... Now left the guy...is he Ok? To my uunderstanding, he took 2 years to forget his ex galfriend... such a sentimental man, how long will he need to get over this? The unsentimental ppl who aren't true enough wouldn't understand....
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
After Watching "The Leap Years"
It's a beautiful story. So beautiful... yet lots of heart rendering moments...
"He is the man of the wind. You have to be paitent."
I saw many couples watching it, but viewing the way some of them behaved, I could only had a conclusion: Romance belongs only to people who truly understands it. Romance belongs only to lovers who are true at heart...
Similary, those who can't understand and appreciate romance at the end of the show, doesn't really understand the movie. I see most of the immature men and women today, love for the wrong reasons, which will end up in seperate ways most of the time, it can't withstand hardship, neither it can be happy and fulfilling for the two.
There is a part in the movie which says,
"The word 'Miss' appears in love letters most frequently rather than 'Love'. "
At parts of the moive itself, I saw bits and pieces of myself in different condition, to the extend of going through part of the story. Bit an pieces... I've been KS, paitent and persistance, I've been raymond as well, who entrusted her happiness to someone else. I've been Li ann, waiting for someone who might not exist, but I didn't have that crazy courage she had to initiate. I haven't been jeremy, but I'm waiting for that "Li ann" to appear.
To many, its a foolish act to believe and trust that jeremy will fulfill the promise of meeting every feb 29. 4 years is so long, they didn't exchange contacts or anything, nothing happened between the leap years. Many advised her to forget about that man, which seemed unreliable, but she have faith in it. That's the faith in the heart which is true. Faith in love.
She waited faithfully, and the man always appears, late or early. That's the trust found in true love and because it is deep, that's why it can hurt very badly.
"I thought I'm dying, but I didn't..."
True love hurts deeply, when it is broken. Just like we will get affected by people who we are more concern than those that we doesn't really concern.
If it doesn't... why? Did you really loved?
She gaved almost everything for that love. Love is giving and sacrifice, with the risk of getting nothing back. Each seperation hurts. We she wanted to end it with Jeremy because she felt betrayed, but when she made that attempt, she was still deeply hurt and cried in silence, badly. It was same for jeremy too. he waited another 4 years to get himself clarified. It's amazing that jeremy had faith in that love and doubted that lie made by Li-ann...
They fall in love when they first met. They only met once after 4 years. They only seen each other 4 times.
If all of these is called "Attachment", then it is definately bound to cause pain, great pain. Happy when one is with one who are deeply in loved with, painful is when seperation comes.
It's the first english moive that I went alone. It's the first english movie that I really wanted to watch. It didn't dissappoint me, and I've deep connection with the ideas behind and the values its trying to bring. I don't mind keepig a copy of this movie, it holds great value to me. Close to my heart, close to my world.
This is me alone at Vivo City after the movie... So quiet...
My mind was calm and quiet too... But some bits of saddness arise in me, when I had some flash back... but just like Robert Frost said,
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned in life: It goes on."
=)
"He is the man of the wind. You have to be paitent."
I saw many couples watching it, but viewing the way some of them behaved, I could only had a conclusion: Romance belongs only to people who truly understands it. Romance belongs only to lovers who are true at heart...
Similary, those who can't understand and appreciate romance at the end of the show, doesn't really understand the movie. I see most of the immature men and women today, love for the wrong reasons, which will end up in seperate ways most of the time, it can't withstand hardship, neither it can be happy and fulfilling for the two.
There is a part in the movie which says,
"The word 'Miss' appears in love letters most frequently rather than 'Love'. "
At parts of the moive itself, I saw bits and pieces of myself in different condition, to the extend of going through part of the story. Bit an pieces... I've been KS, paitent and persistance, I've been raymond as well, who entrusted her happiness to someone else. I've been Li ann, waiting for someone who might not exist, but I didn't have that crazy courage she had to initiate. I haven't been jeremy, but I'm waiting for that "Li ann" to appear.
To many, its a foolish act to believe and trust that jeremy will fulfill the promise of meeting every feb 29. 4 years is so long, they didn't exchange contacts or anything, nothing happened between the leap years. Many advised her to forget about that man, which seemed unreliable, but she have faith in it. That's the faith in the heart which is true. Faith in love.
She waited faithfully, and the man always appears, late or early. That's the trust found in true love and because it is deep, that's why it can hurt very badly.
"I thought I'm dying, but I didn't..."
True love hurts deeply, when it is broken. Just like we will get affected by people who we are more concern than those that we doesn't really concern.
If it doesn't... why? Did you really loved?
She gaved almost everything for that love. Love is giving and sacrifice, with the risk of getting nothing back. Each seperation hurts. We she wanted to end it with Jeremy because she felt betrayed, but when she made that attempt, she was still deeply hurt and cried in silence, badly. It was same for jeremy too. he waited another 4 years to get himself clarified. It's amazing that jeremy had faith in that love and doubted that lie made by Li-ann...
They fall in love when they first met. They only met once after 4 years. They only seen each other 4 times.
If all of these is called "Attachment", then it is definately bound to cause pain, great pain. Happy when one is with one who are deeply in loved with, painful is when seperation comes.
It's the first english moive that I went alone. It's the first english movie that I really wanted to watch. It didn't dissappoint me, and I've deep connection with the ideas behind and the values its trying to bring. I don't mind keepig a copy of this movie, it holds great value to me. Close to my heart, close to my world.
This is me alone at Vivo City after the movie... So quiet...
My mind was calm and quiet too... But some bits of saddness arise in me, when I had some flash back... but just like Robert Frost said,
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned in life: It goes on."
=)
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
Catching 'The Leap Years'
那只有四年一次的约会。。。
When it first appeared as trailers on the T.V., it had captured my attention as it has touched something deep within me, the deepest area of my heart, where romance and passionate love has been sleeping... A different me... the real me when I loved deeply... that stuborn me, which is only for her who is worthy.
If it's striking to me, than it should be an excellent play on romance which I should go and appreciate... it's setting, intention lies behind the storyline... the author's poetic presentations and the story itself...
I've always believed, even till today: Other than those, who had loved their other part truly and deeply, with sensitivity; True romance and love belongs only to those who are beautiful at the external. There are no romance for those who existed in this world, not looking good enough, and those who cannot appreciate love rightly.
人生是由工匠粗糙的手艺所雕琢出来的玉器。但在工匠心里却拥有一颗他一直想得到的美玉，而那，就是戏中的人生。
心中固然有无比高尚纯洁的玉器，但是手中却是疵玉。再怎么雕，也不会成为高尚的玉。这就是我那永远无法实现的人生。
Romance exist, only when there is someone existing to appreciate. Would there be someone who will appreciate? Who will be the one who share my story within?
"If you are not too long, I will wait for you all my life."
-Oscar Wilde
Actually I intended to watch it on the 29 Feb itself, but too bad, I'm in management camp.
I'll move step by step to the cinema alone, seating alone, appreciating that movie which belongs to both. Romance can only be my sweet dream... How long will I carry on my dreams?
I'll go on alone... if that day never ever returns...
keeping another story in my mind till the infinite future.
When it first appeared as trailers on the T.V., it had captured my attention as it has touched something deep within me, the deepest area of my heart, where romance and passionate love has been sleeping... A different me... the real me when I loved deeply... that stuborn me, which is only for her who is worthy.
If it's striking to me, than it should be an excellent play on romance which I should go and appreciate... it's setting, intention lies behind the storyline... the author's poetic presentations and the story itself...
I've always believed, even till today: Other than those, who had loved their other part truly and deeply, with sensitivity; True romance and love belongs only to those who are beautiful at the external. There are no romance for those who existed in this world, not looking good enough, and those who cannot appreciate love rightly.
人生是由工匠粗糙的手艺所雕琢出来的玉器。但在工匠心里却拥有一颗他一直想得到的美玉，而那，就是戏中的人生。
心中固然有无比高尚纯洁的玉器，但是手中却是疵玉。再怎么雕，也不会成为高尚的玉。这就是我那永远无法实现的人生。
Romance exist, only when there is someone existing to appreciate. Would there be someone who will appreciate? Who will be the one who share my story within?
"If you are not too long, I will wait for you all my life."
-Oscar Wilde
Actually I intended to watch it on the 29 Feb itself, but too bad, I'm in management camp.
I'll move step by step to the cinema alone, seating alone, appreciating that movie which belongs to both. Romance can only be my sweet dream... How long will I carry on my dreams?
I'll go on alone... if that day never ever returns...
keeping another story in my mind till the infinite future.
Saturday, December 08, 2007
Monday, July 23, 2007
Searching for true love? What is it?
I saw a friends Blog, who seems to be confuse and don't know what is love. This was my reply, which I feel, it is long enough and able to express my thinkings... So I decided to post it in my blog too:
Love is a pure intention of wishing someone to be well and happy. This is love in its purest state, where it is boundless and sustainable. Why boundless? Because it does not have a condition, it can be anyone, anywhere. Why sustainable? Because it is not conditioned. You can call it unconditional love if you like.
We love ourselves, because we hope that we can be well and happy.
We love others, because we hope the same for others.
It becomes conditional love when it is polluted by self and craving. This is simply understood, when you ask yourself, why you feel differently for different people? The most obvious levels are parents -> partner -> Friends -> stranger -> enemy.
Because you got different levels of craving to them mah. =) So... such love is not sustainable... and is ever-changing...sometimes love you, sometimes hate you. because, conditioned things changes.
True Love is simple, but to have it is not simple. Learn to love people with pure love, and you will be free from many disatisfactions and pain.
Think in a way, that may I be well and happy, and may you be well and happy. Then you will start to do things which brings both you and other's happiness.
True Love is about giving. Giving and granting happiness. Not getting or taking.
How much you love? Ask yourself how much can you give for him/her?
Pure love gives unconditionally. Who you are, what you have done, isn't an issue already.
Those who are desprately getting a partner or wanting a partner back, think again.
You want him/her, or you want to love him/her?
That's how I see it.
Love is a pure intention of wishing someone to be well and happy. This is love in its purest state, where it is boundless and sustainable. Why boundless? Because it does not have a condition, it can be anyone, anywhere. Why sustainable? Because it is not conditioned. You can call it unconditional love if you like.
We love ourselves, because we hope that we can be well and happy.
We love others, because we hope the same for others.
It becomes conditional love when it is polluted by self and craving. This is simply understood, when you ask yourself, why you feel differently for different people? The most obvious levels are parents -> partner -> Friends -> stranger -> enemy.
Because you got different levels of craving to them mah. =) So... such love is not sustainable... and is ever-changing...sometimes love you, sometimes hate you. because, conditioned things changes.
True Love is simple, but to have it is not simple. Learn to love people with pure love, and you will be free from many disatisfactions and pain.
Think in a way, that may I be well and happy, and may you be well and happy. Then you will start to do things which brings both you and other's happiness.
True Love is about giving. Giving and granting happiness. Not getting or taking.
How much you love? Ask yourself how much can you give for him/her?
Pure love gives unconditionally. Who you are, what you have done, isn't an issue already.
Those who are desprately getting a partner or wanting a partner back, think again.
You want him/her, or you want to love him/her?
That's how I see it.
Monday, July 02, 2007
Unusually plain-spoken truths
"May I have nothing to do with honor, Nagita, and honor nothing to do with me...
Whoever cannot obtain at will, the pleasure of renunciation... seclusion... peace... self-awakening, let him consent to this slimy-excrement-pleasure, this torpor-pleasure, this pleasure of gains, offerings, & fame.
"When one eats & drinks & chews & savors, there is excrement & urine: That is the result one will get.
"When one loves, there arises the state of change & aberration, sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair: That is the result one will get.
"When one is committed to the theme of the unattractive, one takes a stance in the loathsomeness of the theme of beauty: That is the result one will get.
"When one remains focused on the inconstancy of the six media of sensory contact, one takes a stance in the loathsomeness of contact: That is the result one will get.
"When one remains focused on the arising & passing away of the five clinging aggregates, one takes a stance in the loathsomeness of clinging: That is the result one will get.
Seldom I saw Buddha using very crude terms. But here I see description such as "this slimy-excrement-pleasure."
It is direct, to the point and simple truths that many had missed, and thus deluded, fall into illusory happiness. Chasing after an imrage, something which cannot satisfy one's desire.
Recently, I got a friend, heartbroken and distressed with love and relationship. This friend did did not see that, in the mist of chasing after something, which was believed to bring happiness to him, in fact causing him pain and distress.
"When one loves, there arises the state of change & aberration, sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair: That is the result one will get.
Even I see couples suffer from sorrow and distress because of his or her partner, due to changes(change of heart, death, illness, change in attitude, change in perception of the other... etc)
and yes, all this distress arises from the love ones.
I hope he can go beyond it, and wake up his idea. Foolishly clinging and trying to stick anything doesn't benefit. May he put his attention rightly on appropriate matters.
May I go beyond this nature of unsatisfaction and attain happiness.
Whoever cannot obtain at will, the pleasure of renunciation... seclusion... peace... self-awakening, let him consent to this slimy-excrement-pleasure, this torpor-pleasure, this pleasure of gains, offerings, & fame.
"When one eats & drinks & chews & savors, there is excrement & urine: That is the result one will get.
"When one loves, there arises the state of change & aberration, sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair: That is the result one will get.
"When one is committed to the theme of the unattractive, one takes a stance in the loathsomeness of the theme of beauty: That is the result one will get.
"When one remains focused on the inconstancy of the six media of sensory contact, one takes a stance in the loathsomeness of contact: That is the result one will get.
"When one remains focused on the arising & passing away of the five clinging aggregates, one takes a stance in the loathsomeness of clinging: That is the result one will get.
AN 5.30, Nagita Sutta
Seldom I saw Buddha using very crude terms. But here I see description such as "this slimy-excrement-pleasure."
It is direct, to the point and simple truths that many had missed, and thus deluded, fall into illusory happiness. Chasing after an imrage, something which cannot satisfy one's desire.
Recently, I got a friend, heartbroken and distressed with love and relationship. This friend did did not see that, in the mist of chasing after something, which was believed to bring happiness to him, in fact causing him pain and distress.
"When one loves, there arises the state of change & aberration, sorrow, lamentation, pain, distress, & despair: That is the result one will get.
Even I see couples suffer from sorrow and distress because of his or her partner, due to changes(change of heart, death, illness, change in attitude, change in perception of the other... etc)
and yes, all this distress arises from the love ones.
I hope he can go beyond it, and wake up his idea. Foolishly clinging and trying to stick anything doesn't benefit. May he put his attention rightly on appropriate matters.
May I go beyond this nature of unsatisfaction and attain happiness.
Sunday, March 19, 2006
我的存在，值得了，因为你HZ...
爱，就是付出。 是一种只愿她快乐，心中也不要求回报。
爱，不是占有。不是一定要与她天长地久才叫爱。
如果你爱她，就让她寻找她的幸福，仍然守护着她。
你真的爱她吗？那就放下自己，为她的幸福着想。
我有一个很要好的朋友，现在他们找到了对方。我祝福你们，真的。
我得不到所谓的甜蜜，幸福，只有孤单寂寞。但是因为我爱我的朋友，也爱她，竟然两人在一起会很幸福，为什么要令到大家都烦恼呢？一个人辛苦就够了。
爱的不够真，就会因爱成恨，心中有股报复心理，可能是冲着夺走你爱人的人，甚至是你曾经爱过的女孩。你会为付出感到不值，因为没有收获。我敢问天下人，你爱她还是爱你自己？
其实，在短短的一年多，我做错的就是向她表白。其实我一点也没有想要向她表白得意思，因为感情世界不是我得空间，我是没有过去，也不会有未来的人。要接受我的全部太难，能够接受我的人太少，愿意接受我的人太辛苦，爱我的人简直在受罪，不是吗？这种心态已经深深的可在我的心里。
当大家坐在一起吃饭，能够坐在她的身边，和大家一起聊天，吃饭我就已经很满足了，一点也没有想到什么恋情，虽然我很喜欢她。
在另一方，其实有一个人在等带着她。就因为我说了不该说的话，耽误了一对恋人。我根本不敢行动，因为她只想和我做个朋友。为了避免越过朋友的界限，我不理会关于她的事，也毫无讨好的举动，只希望可以抹灭掉那种不自在，可以开心的见面，说话。我希望的就只是这样而已。
七个人常常出去，但是心中也常常很难受，因为，如果可以象，Hz, Jon, 一样和她在一起嘻笑斗嘴，我就会觉得很开心。他们在玩乐，我却一个人站着看。好寂寞。
我在默默的，试着了解她，去明白它需要的是什么。但是太难，因为毫无机会。好不容易，最近终于似乎可以和她说话，她也懂得回复我。偶尔酸一酸她，就是为了看见她那种样子，酸来酸去，看到她被逗得开心。但是，巴掌还是落在Hz的身上多。她是连我一更寒毛也不感动。
我和Hz的友情也似乎慢慢加深。越来越珍惜这班朋友们，有了美好的回忆。
我要向你道歉，Hz真得很对不起，真的对不起。我在你们两人中成了绊脚石，多余出来的。
我希望你们能够知道，当简讯来到，直到现在，我没有一刻的怨言，愤怒。两个人在一起是天经地义，况且一个是放在我心中的朋友，一个是在我心中爱着的人，我怎么可以怨你们？怎么可以不祝福你们？我心里只是非常的辛苦，欲哭无泪，真的欲哭无泪，因为我不知到要怎么去接受这样的事实，也不知道要怎么去面对你们。这几个星期，一直在压印着我的情绪，不断地告诉我自己，祝福你们。。。祝福你们。因为真正去爱，不是占有，而是希望着你会幸福。
有Hz这样去照顾到我的心情和感受，你也没有对我有任何敌意，我也感受到你的友情，能够遇到像你这样真心的人，我这一生值得了。
虽然Hz, 你和她在一起了，但我知道，你比我有这个能力给予她幸福。我不可能伤害任何人，因为我做不到，因为你是我真诚的朋友，我更不可能去怨她，只因为我也爱她。
所以，我会一直在你们的身旁守护着你们，支持你们。如果，我已经变成你们的阻碍，让我知道，我会离开。 希望你们相信我，因为我相信，你们还是把我当朋友。可能我们之间的感情会消失，但在我的心中会有一颗永恒的友情和爱，永远保持着它的纯洁与真诚。
可能都是我一厢情愿的吧。。。 如果有来生，我要继续做你的好朋友，一个永远的朋友。
“苦”是“执著”本来就有的特性。一切的一切只要夹着“执著”/“占有”自然就会有痛苦，这是它的天性。所有一切，少了执著，就没有苦。
我学习到了，见到苦的根源，也亲身感受一点灭苦的滋味了。好轻松，也找到真诚的心，太宝贵了。
也感谢周杰伦，你这首歌替我表达了我当时的心情，给予了我一时抒发感受的机会∶
。。。回到过去。。。
拥抱在心里的感觉是“情”，你感觉到了吗？那种很纯净的情意。。。
爱，不是占有。不是一定要与她天长地久才叫爱。
如果你爱她，就让她寻找她的幸福，仍然守护着她。
你真的爱她吗？那就放下自己，为她的幸福着想。
我有一个很要好的朋友，现在他们找到了对方。我祝福你们，真的。
我得不到所谓的甜蜜，幸福，只有孤单寂寞。但是因为我爱我的朋友，也爱她，竟然两人在一起会很幸福，为什么要令到大家都烦恼呢？一个人辛苦就够了。
爱的不够真，就会因爱成恨，心中有股报复心理，可能是冲着夺走你爱人的人，甚至是你曾经爱过的女孩。你会为付出感到不值，因为没有收获。我敢问天下人，你爱她还是爱你自己？
其实，在短短的一年多，我做错的就是向她表白。其实我一点也没有想要向她表白得意思，因为感情世界不是我得空间，我是没有过去，也不会有未来的人。要接受我的全部太难，能够接受我的人太少，愿意接受我的人太辛苦，爱我的人简直在受罪，不是吗？这种心态已经深深的可在我的心里。
当大家坐在一起吃饭，能够坐在她的身边，和大家一起聊天，吃饭我就已经很满足了，一点也没有想到什么恋情，虽然我很喜欢她。
在另一方，其实有一个人在等带着她。就因为我说了不该说的话，耽误了一对恋人。我根本不敢行动，因为她只想和我做个朋友。为了避免越过朋友的界限，我不理会关于她的事，也毫无讨好的举动，只希望可以抹灭掉那种不自在，可以开心的见面，说话。我希望的就只是这样而已。
七个人常常出去，但是心中也常常很难受，因为，如果可以象，Hz, Jon, 一样和她在一起嘻笑斗嘴，我就会觉得很开心。他们在玩乐，我却一个人站着看。好寂寞。
我在默默的，试着了解她，去明白它需要的是什么。但是太难，因为毫无机会。好不容易，最近终于似乎可以和她说话，她也懂得回复我。偶尔酸一酸她，就是为了看见她那种样子，酸来酸去，看到她被逗得开心。但是，巴掌还是落在Hz的身上多。她是连我一更寒毛也不感动。
我和Hz的友情也似乎慢慢加深。越来越珍惜这班朋友们，有了美好的回忆。
我要向你道歉，Hz真得很对不起，真的对不起。我在你们两人中成了绊脚石，多余出来的。
我希望你们能够知道，当简讯来到，直到现在，我没有一刻的怨言，愤怒。两个人在一起是天经地义，况且一个是放在我心中的朋友，一个是在我心中爱着的人，我怎么可以怨你们？怎么可以不祝福你们？我心里只是非常的辛苦，欲哭无泪，真的欲哭无泪，因为我不知到要怎么去接受这样的事实，也不知道要怎么去面对你们。这几个星期，一直在压印着我的情绪，不断地告诉我自己，祝福你们。。。祝福你们。因为真正去爱，不是占有，而是希望着你会幸福。
有Hz这样去照顾到我的心情和感受，你也没有对我有任何敌意，我也感受到你的友情，能够遇到像你这样真心的人，我这一生值得了。
虽然Hz, 你和她在一起了，但我知道，你比我有这个能力给予她幸福。我不可能伤害任何人，因为我做不到，因为你是我真诚的朋友，我更不可能去怨她，只因为我也爱她。
所以，我会一直在你们的身旁守护着你们，支持你们。如果，我已经变成你们的阻碍，让我知道，我会离开。 希望你们相信我，因为我相信，你们还是把我当朋友。可能我们之间的感情会消失，但在我的心中会有一颗永恒的友情和爱，永远保持着它的纯洁与真诚。
可能都是我一厢情愿的吧。。。 如果有来生，我要继续做你的好朋友，一个永远的朋友。
“苦”是“执著”本来就有的特性。一切的一切只要夹着“执著”/“占有”自然就会有痛苦，这是它的天性。所有一切，少了执著，就没有苦。
我学习到了，见到苦的根源，也亲身感受一点灭苦的滋味了。好轻松，也找到真诚的心，太宝贵了。
也感谢周杰伦，你这首歌替我表达了我当时的心情，给予了我一时抒发感受的机会∶
。。。回到过去。。。
拥抱在心里的感觉是“情”，你感觉到了吗？那种很纯净的情意。。。
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